Hello bloggy friends.
When last we exchanged ideas... I was intrigued by the gentleman who showed a real investment in getting to know me.
How do I explain what has happened since then?
How about: He's doing everything right. Eh? How about THAT?!
He asked me to meet him for drinks, with the possibility of dinner, because... in his words... he was optimistic that we would hit it off. I liked that, but then for some reason, when he called to confirm, I was feeling skeptical (too much talking to girlfriends on my part! - that's a fine line you know!).
We met at a rather happening downtown place, enjoyed drinks and endless conversation, and it was obvious we would have dinner together. The poor waiter had to leave and come back several times because we couldn't stop talking long enough to look at our menus!
Later, he walked me to my car and told me he wanted to see me again. I agreed.
He had a trip planned and was out of town shortly after our meeting. By that weekend, I was tempted to text him, but reminded myself to LET HIM PURSUE ME! Within an hour or two, he texted me a greeting from his vacation. Nice.
We had another date in which he offered to pick me up. For the second date, I decided that was okay as long as I planned to meet him in my building's entry. When he buzzed, I ran downstairs to find him waiting with a lovely bouquet of flowers! So we went back up to my place to put them in water... I was stunned by his sweet and formal gesture!
Dinner went the same... non-stop conversation.
He laughs at nearly everything I say... I smile like a dork the whole time.
He walked me to my front door and said that he was really enjoying getting to know me. I agreed. A polite kiss and hug and we were off to our separate corners. (really a 'polite' kiss, as I felt a cold coming on... and I was right.)
Out of town again... he sent me a meaningful message during his vacation time.
Oh... and he locks me in for a future date nearly a week in advance.
I will say, this same behavior in other men has made me uncomfortable in the past.
There was a guy who brought me a dozen roses every time he came to see me, and it just came off as overkill. Maybe that's because I don't really care for roses. (seems the second they are cut, they smell foul to me)
I wondered for a second or two, if downloading a sampler of my favorite band was a bit much... but something about his approach ... it all struck me as sincere.
So this man seems to be hitting it out of the park right now.
I'm not saying I'm falling for him or anything just yet, but I have the attentions of a very good man and I know that.
Meanwhile, McTwitchy has detected that I have someone else in rotation. He pointed out that he senses that I'm being distant... and if I am, it's not intentional... I've been pretty busy with work... and then with some dates, so I haven't been available for McTwitchy... plus a stupid head cold... but oh, I didn't tell you that he seems to be suddenly falling hard for me. I told him if he wanted a third chance with me.... that he would have to be serious. Have to have a plan and know what he wants. I still don't think he's ready to do that... honestly.
So I don't know what he expects.
That's a whole other kettle of fish, as they say.
He asked me if this new guy had potential.... well, what could I say?
Yeah, loads of potential!
Showing posts with label dating. Show all posts
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Saturday, August 6, 2011
Saturday, July 23, 2011
Quickies
Two things my bloggy friends...
One
After the disastrous online dating event I referred to in my last post... things picked up with another online suitor. We exchanged a few emails and it is all very encouraging. Allow me to tell you a story about just how sweet he is.
The other day he asked about what concerts I was looking forward to this summer. I responded that my favorite band is playing at a music festival next month. In his next email, he shared that he downloaded a music sampler of that band on iTun*s so he would know what I liked. (How nice/invested is THAT?!) Then he wrote a whole email incorporating the names of some of the groups' songs... as sort of a word scramble game for me. Cute. no? Then at the end of the email he told me how much he was liking the band to which I just introduced him! How do you not like the guy? We're meeting on Monday.
Two
I went to my yoga class for the first time in five or six weeks... ouchy... I was sore!
One of my favorite instructors taught the class and at the end of class, he suggested that if there was anything any of us were holding onto that wasn't serving us (emotionally, not spare change!) that we should take a moment to just leave it in the room.
I thought for a couple seconds... and determined that I was still holding onto anger at Mr. Burns for wasting so many years with me... when he had to know he was never going to be able to commit.
I should leave that on the mat. It's making me hostile and unattractive.
I wasn't so sure it would actually work... but for the past six days... I have felt SO good to let go of that hostility! Wow!
So it makes me wonder... why do I avoid the sacrament of confession? Maybe that's the experience I needed to be able to understand the freedom of offering those naughty things that don't serve me to God.
One
After the disastrous online dating event I referred to in my last post... things picked up with another online suitor. We exchanged a few emails and it is all very encouraging. Allow me to tell you a story about just how sweet he is.
The other day he asked about what concerts I was looking forward to this summer. I responded that my favorite band is playing at a music festival next month. In his next email, he shared that he downloaded a music sampler of that band on iTun*s so he would know what I liked. (How nice/invested is THAT?!) Then he wrote a whole email incorporating the names of some of the groups' songs... as sort of a word scramble game for me. Cute. no? Then at the end of the email he told me how much he was liking the band to which I just introduced him! How do you not like the guy? We're meeting on Monday.
Two
I went to my yoga class for the first time in five or six weeks... ouchy... I was sore!
One of my favorite instructors taught the class and at the end of class, he suggested that if there was anything any of us were holding onto that wasn't serving us (emotionally, not spare change!) that we should take a moment to just leave it in the room.
I thought for a couple seconds... and determined that I was still holding onto anger at Mr. Burns for wasting so many years with me... when he had to know he was never going to be able to commit.
I should leave that on the mat. It's making me hostile and unattractive.
I wasn't so sure it would actually work... but for the past six days... I have felt SO good to let go of that hostility! Wow!
So it makes me wonder... why do I avoid the sacrament of confession? Maybe that's the experience I needed to be able to understand the freedom of offering those naughty things that don't serve me to God.
Saturday, July 16, 2011
Oh The Joys of Online Dating
I am currently participating on a popular online dating site, and each week as a member has its ups and downs.
One man contacted me with so much enthusiasm - I was at once, turned off and flattered. I hate to say it, but judging by his profile and his picture, I wasn't interested. It's a struggle to balance being judgmental, intuitive and open-minded. (more on that later)
Despite my disinterest, I decided to communicate with him on the site until I felt compelled to meet him or certain that I would never want to.
Interestingly, as he sent me multiple messages... even when I was off site for more than a week at a time - I began to delay logging onto the site because I dreaded getting all of these messages from him in particular.
(Funny, as I relayed this to a friend who has not been on any dating sites, she remarked that it was interesting that the same feelings play out, as they do in real life!)
After a couple exchanges, his most recent message to me began with, "It sounds like you want to have children..." he went on to explain that he has decided he doesn't want to have children... AND THEN... he offered the information that, "It is sometimes precarious to have children after age 40."
(I'll let that sink in for a bit.)
Oh yes he did!!
Really? Is that right?
Is this man so ignorant as to think that there is a 40-year-old woman alive in the United States of America, particularly one who has not yet had the opportunity or the good fortune to successfully procreate prior to her 40s, who doesn't know the difficulty, the rarity, the risks, and the likelihood of conception after age 40?!?!
Is he so smug as to think that he can reveal information on the statistics of "geriatric pregnancy" that a woman my age doesn't already know?
I politely wrote back that yes, I do indeed have a strong maternal instinct, and that I hoped to have children whether they be the "homemade" variety, adopted or even foster children. That I know rather well, that there is a chance that I can't have the homemade variety - but that I still think it would be crucial to a marriage to start out with a spouse who is also interested in having children, and has the faith to let the "chips fall where they may." (translated as a faith in God to provide the best for us and our marriage)
Then, after I answered his other inquiries, I offered the advice that he ought not ever feel compelled to inform a woman older than 40 about the likelihood of conception and pregnancy. We know. We've been thinking about since we were 20-years-old. We've been worried about it since we were 25. We've been praying about it since we were 30, and we've been researching it since we turned 35.
I look forward to never hearing from him again.
I dread that I will indeed, have one more message from him before this over!
I promised more on the delicate balance:
It is my nature to be rather open-minded about dating anyone - but experience, while being a harsh teacher, also teaches wisdom. There are certain clues, signals, in what people say, what people do... and sometimes even in their appearance that reveal how they are going to act, and sometimes what is in their heart. (it's long been said that eyes are the window to the soul... which is not so far off.)
It is tempting to be dismissive of those that signal that which repels us. And having been single for so many years, one starts to re-think one's strategy... and give them a chance, just in case we are wrong.
So far, my gut has been right.
Stinking, alone, and right!
One man contacted me with so much enthusiasm - I was at once, turned off and flattered. I hate to say it, but judging by his profile and his picture, I wasn't interested. It's a struggle to balance being judgmental, intuitive and open-minded. (more on that later)
Despite my disinterest, I decided to communicate with him on the site until I felt compelled to meet him or certain that I would never want to.
Interestingly, as he sent me multiple messages... even when I was off site for more than a week at a time - I began to delay logging onto the site because I dreaded getting all of these messages from him in particular.
(Funny, as I relayed this to a friend who has not been on any dating sites, she remarked that it was interesting that the same feelings play out, as they do in real life!)
After a couple exchanges, his most recent message to me began with, "It sounds like you want to have children..." he went on to explain that he has decided he doesn't want to have children... AND THEN... he offered the information that, "It is sometimes precarious to have children after age 40."
(I'll let that sink in for a bit.)
Oh yes he did!!
Really? Is that right?
Is this man so ignorant as to think that there is a 40-year-old woman alive in the United States of America, particularly one who has not yet had the opportunity or the good fortune to successfully procreate prior to her 40s, who doesn't know the difficulty, the rarity, the risks, and the likelihood of conception after age 40?!?!
Is he so smug as to think that he can reveal information on the statistics of "geriatric pregnancy" that a woman my age doesn't already know?
I politely wrote back that yes, I do indeed have a strong maternal instinct, and that I hoped to have children whether they be the "homemade" variety, adopted or even foster children. That I know rather well, that there is a chance that I can't have the homemade variety - but that I still think it would be crucial to a marriage to start out with a spouse who is also interested in having children, and has the faith to let the "chips fall where they may." (translated as a faith in God to provide the best for us and our marriage)
Then, after I answered his other inquiries, I offered the advice that he ought not ever feel compelled to inform a woman older than 40 about the likelihood of conception and pregnancy. We know. We've been thinking about since we were 20-years-old. We've been worried about it since we were 25. We've been praying about it since we were 30, and we've been researching it since we turned 35.
I look forward to never hearing from him again.
I dread that I will indeed, have one more message from him before this over!
I promised more on the delicate balance:
It is my nature to be rather open-minded about dating anyone - but experience, while being a harsh teacher, also teaches wisdom. There are certain clues, signals, in what people say, what people do... and sometimes even in their appearance that reveal how they are going to act, and sometimes what is in their heart. (it's long been said that eyes are the window to the soul... which is not so far off.)
It is tempting to be dismissive of those that signal that which repels us. And having been single for so many years, one starts to re-think one's strategy... and give them a chance, just in case we are wrong.
So far, my gut has been right.
Stinking, alone, and right!
Thursday, April 28, 2011
Robert Pattinson & Kristen Stewart Caught Kissing (Photo)
Saturday, April 23, 2011
Who Was Crowned the Most Beautiful Royal of All Time
Who Was Crowned the Most Beautiful Royal of All Time
Bride-to-be Kate Middleton beating out Princess Diana may have been a “big surprise,” Greg Hodge, managing director of the site, told The New York Post. But Prince Charles placing 10th on the men’s “most beautiful” list may be the most shocking. Prince Carl Philip of Sweden grabbed the top spot among the guys, while Prince William took fifth.
“The British royals are typically very horsey-looking,” Hodge explained. “Diana certainly improved the… gene pool, and we hope that Kate will do the same.”
The Most Beautiful Royal Women
#10 Princess Masako of Japan#9 Princess Margaret, Countess of Snowdon
#8 Princess Mary of Denmark
#7 Princess Madeleine of Sweden
#6 Gayatri Devi, Maharani of Jaipur
#5 Charlotte Casiraghi of Monaco
#4 Princess Diana
#3 Kate Middleton, princess in waiting
#2 Queen Rania of Jordan
#1 Princess Grace of Monaco
Source: Oddepedia
Thursday, March 24, 2011
The Line Forms Here...
At my church's Lenten fish fry, I carried my tray through the serving line then scanned the rows of tables for some familiar faces. I found them at fully packed tables, so I looked around some more.
Finally, I spotted an opening and some friendly new faces so I screwed up my courage and as I claimed a seat I announced, "Sheesh, there are never any singles tables at these things!" That remark drew laughter and served as a mark for conversation. That evening I met a couple, younger than me with an adorable brand new baby... and a trio of sweet older ladies who are now fixed on introducing me to at least one suitable nephew!
There is something to be said for making your needs known! It took a solid 45 minutes for Ms. Martha, across the table from me to think of her nephew. I gave her my phone number and email address... but I doubt I'll hear from her until the next fish fry!
Later that week, at work one of the women at the office asked me what sort of man I'm looking for - her queries were about height and I declared indifference. I have no height or hair requirements as long as the man is whole!! We joked about the pain of dating... and a few days later she announced that she thought of someone to introduce me to. She started naming qualities to determine if anything was a deal breaker.
Finally I said, "I'll meet anybody, as long as you think we'll have something in common. This isn't a commitment to marry me. Just to meet me."
The ladies seemed to appreciate that ... and then my sarcastic nature took the best of me... "Just line 'em up!"
In related news... I have another set up in the works. I'm told he's a good, interesting guy. His main fault seems to be bad hair. Hopefully that's correctable.
And my dance card on my online dating site is starting to fill up. There is at least one very appealing prospect... so I'll have updates to share if you care to hear about my dating adventures.
Hoping to kiss my last frog.
Finally, I spotted an opening and some friendly new faces so I screwed up my courage and as I claimed a seat I announced, "Sheesh, there are never any singles tables at these things!" That remark drew laughter and served as a mark for conversation. That evening I met a couple, younger than me with an adorable brand new baby... and a trio of sweet older ladies who are now fixed on introducing me to at least one suitable nephew!
There is something to be said for making your needs known! It took a solid 45 minutes for Ms. Martha, across the table from me to think of her nephew. I gave her my phone number and email address... but I doubt I'll hear from her until the next fish fry!
Later that week, at work one of the women at the office asked me what sort of man I'm looking for - her queries were about height and I declared indifference. I have no height or hair requirements as long as the man is whole!! We joked about the pain of dating... and a few days later she announced that she thought of someone to introduce me to. She started naming qualities to determine if anything was a deal breaker.
Finally I said, "I'll meet anybody, as long as you think we'll have something in common. This isn't a commitment to marry me. Just to meet me."
The ladies seemed to appreciate that ... and then my sarcastic nature took the best of me... "Just line 'em up!"
In related news... I have another set up in the works. I'm told he's a good, interesting guy. His main fault seems to be bad hair. Hopefully that's correctable.
And my dance card on my online dating site is starting to fill up. There is at least one very appealing prospect... so I'll have updates to share if you care to hear about my dating adventures.
Hoping to kiss my last frog.
Saturday, January 29, 2011
Hollywood Stars Dumped by Her Boyfriends
A hot woman at home isn’t enough for some celebrity men. Check out the stars who shocked fans after straying from their sizzling significant other.Eva Longoria has been declared one of the sexiest women in the world by countless magazines, and yet it seems her San Antonio Spurs star hubby Tony Parker still felt the need to stray. Soon after the couple’s split was announced, reports began to surface that Eva found inappropriate text messages between Parker and another woman. So who is the other woman? Parker was reportedly going behind his wife’s back with Erin Barry, wife of his former teammate Brent Barry, according to Sports Illustrated reporter Bryan Armen Graham.While the inappropriate texts have rocked two marriages, a source told E! the relationship between Parker and Erin never got physical, and that it never went past ‘just texting.
‘Luke Worrall makes me sick!!!’ the reality star wrote.
According to gossip blogger Perez Hilton, the couple ended their engagement after Osbourne learned that Worrall had been cheating on her. Osbourne, 25, and Worrall, 20, began dating in May 2008 after meeting through friends and announced their engagement in March 2009.
‘After much thoughtful mutual consideration, Deane [her husband's given name] and I have agreed to move forward with dissolving our marriage,’ Rimes wrote on her Web site in early September. ‘This decision was amicable and we remain committed and caring friends with great admiration for one another.’
The 27-year-old singer and songwriter/former dancer Sheremet, married in 2002, when Rimes was only 19.
Court documents showed that Cibrian cited irreconcilable differences and is seeking custody of the couple’s two sons, Mason, 6, and Jake, 2. Just a few days later, the 36-year-old ‘CSI: Miami’ star and his rumored girlfriend Rimes went public with their relationship, and were spotted jetting off for a romantic getaway to Cabo San Lucas for Rimes’ 27th birthday.
Marriage didn’t turn out to be such a dream for Christina Milian. The singer and her music producer husband The-Dream have decided to separate, his rep tells UsMagazine.com.
The couple’s split doesn’t come as a surprise as new scandalous photos that have surfaced show The-Dream frolicking in the Caribbean with a woman who is not his wife. According to Us, the other woman is the producer’s assistant of about a year, Melissa Santiago.
Milian, 28, and The-Dream, 29, eloped last September in Las Vegas and tied the knot a second time in Rome in December. They welcomed daughter Violent in February.
The National Enquirer first reported the creepy inter-family cheating allegation in December, quoting an unnamed friend of Southwick’s. The tabloid also said Southwick had an affair with her son’s baseball coach in 2008 – a claim she denied.
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