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Sunday, October 2, 2011
How To Skype And Video Conference On IPad / IPad 2 / IPhone / IPod ...
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Bunraku
Bunraku premiered at last year’s TIFF as part of the Midnight Madness program. The film’s first screening received very positive reviews so I went in to the second screening with rather high expectations. As it was the last film I watched at the festival that year, I was ready to sit back and enjoy the ride. Unfortunately, while a visual treat, I could not fathom what caused the rave reviews that I had heard going into the film? After spending the last year touring the festival circuit, Bunraku is finally hits theatres today in limited release.
A mishmash of both the martial-arts and western genres, Bunraku focuses on a nameless man, referred to as Drifter (Josh Hartnett) who has strolled into town looking to exact revenge on the notorious crime lord Nicola the Woodcutter (Ron Perlman). In a world where guns have been banned, Nicola uses nine specific assassins to do his bidding. To get to Nicola, Drifter must team up with a samurai, Yoshi (Gackt), who has his own score to settle, in order to bring down Nicola’s reign. However, one assassin in particular, Killer No. 2 (Kevin McKidd), is determined to ensure that Drifter does not succeed.
Normally I will rally behind any action film that has a unique style, Bunraku has this in spades. You could take several frames from the film and easily convert them into a beautiful poster. Visually speaking, the film is just wonderful. Director Guy Moshe clearly has an astute eye for colour and detail. The set design alone, especially in the jail break scene, is worth seeing.
What hinders Bunraku though, is that the film offers nothing more than pretty visuals. Sure the fight scenes have good choreography, but they are not thrilling. The fights also become repetitive rather quickly. If you are making an action film with a thin plot, you better make sure that the action sequences are outstanding. Sadly only one of the fight scenes is somewhat memorable.
The talented cast is underused for the majority of the film. While it is clear the actors are having fun with their roles, their characters are extremely one dimensional. There is really no reason for Demi Moore to be in the film. Her character, Alexandra, is only there to show that Nicola has weaknesses, which is something that could have easily been established without her. The real standout actors in the film are Woody Harrelson and Kevin McKidd. Harrelson brings a comedic touch to the film as the wise bartender who teaches Drifter and Yoshi how to co-exist. McKidd is fantastic as the cold-blooded Killer No. 2. He brings both style and swagger to the character. Besides the great visuals, McKidd’s work is the only other highlight in Bunraku. If you are expecting something more than pretty visuals, Bunraku is not the film for you.
A mishmash of both the martial-arts and western genres, Bunraku focuses on a nameless man, referred to as Drifter (Josh Hartnett) who has strolled into town looking to exact revenge on the notorious crime lord Nicola the Woodcutter (Ron Perlman). In a world where guns have been banned, Nicola uses nine specific assassins to do his bidding. To get to Nicola, Drifter must team up with a samurai, Yoshi (Gackt), who has his own score to settle, in order to bring down Nicola’s reign. However, one assassin in particular, Killer No. 2 (Kevin McKidd), is determined to ensure that Drifter does not succeed.
Normally I will rally behind any action film that has a unique style, Bunraku has this in spades. You could take several frames from the film and easily convert them into a beautiful poster. Visually speaking, the film is just wonderful. Director Guy Moshe clearly has an astute eye for colour and detail. The set design alone, especially in the jail break scene, is worth seeing.
What hinders Bunraku though, is that the film offers nothing more than pretty visuals. Sure the fight scenes have good choreography, but they are not thrilling. The fights also become repetitive rather quickly. If you are making an action film with a thin plot, you better make sure that the action sequences are outstanding. Sadly only one of the fight scenes is somewhat memorable.
The talented cast is underused for the majority of the film. While it is clear the actors are having fun with their roles, their characters are extremely one dimensional. There is really no reason for Demi Moore to be in the film. Her character, Alexandra, is only there to show that Nicola has weaknesses, which is something that could have easily been established without her. The real standout actors in the film are Woody Harrelson and Kevin McKidd. Harrelson brings a comedic touch to the film as the wise bartender who teaches Drifter and Yoshi how to co-exist. McKidd is fantastic as the cold-blooded Killer No. 2. He brings both style and swagger to the character. Besides the great visuals, McKidd’s work is the only other highlight in Bunraku. If you are expecting something more than pretty visuals, Bunraku is not the film for you.
Thursday, September 29, 2011
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Destiny's in game view ROOTDestiny (Z) is 1287 points, Grand Master league www.sc2ranks.com CombatEX (P) is 1434 points, Grand Master league ...Which is Better?
Aaron Eckhart
10 sample films:
In the Company of Men
Thank You for Smoking
Erin Brockovich
The Dark Knight
Any Given Sunday
The Core
Your Friends & Neighbors
The Black Dahlia
Rabbit Hole
Battle Los Angeles
In the Company of Men
Thank You for Smoking
Erin Brockovich
The Dark Knight
Any Given Sunday
The Core
Your Friends & Neighbors
The Black Dahlia
Rabbit Hole
Battle Los Angeles
or
Sam Rockwell
10 sample films:
Moon
Matchstick Men
The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy
Frost/Nixon
Choke
Charlie’s Angels
Galaxy Quest
The Assassination of Jesse James by the Coward Robert Ford
Confessions of a Dangerous Mind
Cowboys and Aliens
Moon
Matchstick Men
The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy
Frost/Nixon
Choke
Charlie’s Angels
Galaxy Quest
The Assassination of Jesse James by the Coward Robert Ford
Confessions of a Dangerous Mind
Cowboys and Aliens
Which do you prefer? Let us know in the comments section
Wednesday, September 28, 2011
Hierarchy
I can act as an expert on parenting and marriage because I'm not a parent or a spouse. Smirk.
A lot of times I feel like there are many couples making glaring mistakes in parenting. Maybe the mistakes aren't glaring to them because they're center isn't the same as mine. I think having the right center makes things much more obvious.
I was watching the new season of The Middle tonight. Next to Modern Family, I find The Middle one of the more entertaining family comedies out there right now.
In tonight's episode, the question of hierarchy comes up in the family. Mom tries to point out that the kids are not in charge ... mom's in charge! She goes so far as to draw a family hierarchy... Mom, kid, kid, kid. In birth order - which of course inspires more arguments, until the question, "What about dad?"
Fine. She writes "Dad" next to "Mom".
At this point I think, "That's right sister!"
Then the kids argue that Dad is above Mom. Mom protests.
Personally, I start thinking... "Yeah, the man should be the head of the household. Why is this mom so opposed to this?"
The program continues to display the drama of who is in charge. Then it dawns on me. The Hecks have the hierarchy all wrong. Of course the wife is going to be uncomfortable if her husband is 'above' her. she was right the first time - with Dad on the same level as Mom. But she forgot to write God, above both of them.
I think it would be easy to love a man, trust a man, and honor a man who put God before not just me, but before himself. I have long stressed that I believe that is the way it should be... and I know there are those that have trouble with the concept.
Actually it came up on a friends FB wall once when someone posted that their kids are FIRST in their lives!! Rah Rah! I pointed out that I thought the God, Spouse, Kids hierarchy was better suited to family harmony. Someone asked how that works... how could you put your man before your kids?! What if the man is abusive? Well, an abusive man is not a man who has God first, now is he? A man who puts God before all else will be a good man by default. Oh, she hadn't thought of that.
Really? (Well, I guess that's why she's married and I'm not. Clearly I'm too picky looking for a man who puts God first. )
Then there is the knowledge that a man of God is wise enough to lead side-by-side. I read once that the husband in the Dugger family says that the decisions he's made that were worst for his family, were the once he made without first consulting his wife.
Well, the Hecks didn't have that epiphany tonight. Instead, they realized (once dad took on some of mom's duties and failed - it's a comedy after all.) that in a family, sometimes everyone pitches in and leads in their own way. Sometimes a sister helps in a way a parent can't. Sometimes kids help parents. (all true)
I guess they couldn't land on the God theory in a program produced for a mass audience and with big corporate sponsors. Look to reruns of 7th Heaven for that!
A lot of times I feel like there are many couples making glaring mistakes in parenting. Maybe the mistakes aren't glaring to them because they're center isn't the same as mine. I think having the right center makes things much more obvious.
I was watching the new season of The Middle tonight. Next to Modern Family, I find The Middle one of the more entertaining family comedies out there right now.In tonight's episode, the question of hierarchy comes up in the family. Mom tries to point out that the kids are not in charge ... mom's in charge! She goes so far as to draw a family hierarchy... Mom, kid, kid, kid. In birth order - which of course inspires more arguments, until the question, "What about dad?"
Fine. She writes "Dad" next to "Mom".
At this point I think, "That's right sister!"
Then the kids argue that Dad is above Mom. Mom protests.
Personally, I start thinking... "Yeah, the man should be the head of the household. Why is this mom so opposed to this?"
The program continues to display the drama of who is in charge. Then it dawns on me. The Hecks have the hierarchy all wrong. Of course the wife is going to be uncomfortable if her husband is 'above' her. she was right the first time - with Dad on the same level as Mom. But she forgot to write God, above both of them.
I think it would be easy to love a man, trust a man, and honor a man who put God before not just me, but before himself. I have long stressed that I believe that is the way it should be... and I know there are those that have trouble with the concept.
Actually it came up on a friends FB wall once when someone posted that their kids are FIRST in their lives!! Rah Rah! I pointed out that I thought the God, Spouse, Kids hierarchy was better suited to family harmony. Someone asked how that works... how could you put your man before your kids?! What if the man is abusive? Well, an abusive man is not a man who has God first, now is he? A man who puts God before all else will be a good man by default. Oh, she hadn't thought of that.
Really? (Well, I guess that's why she's married and I'm not. Clearly I'm too picky looking for a man who puts God first. )
Then there is the knowledge that a man of God is wise enough to lead side-by-side. I read once that the husband in the Dugger family says that the decisions he's made that were worst for his family, were the once he made without first consulting his wife.
Well, the Hecks didn't have that epiphany tonight. Instead, they realized (once dad took on some of mom's duties and failed - it's a comedy after all.) that in a family, sometimes everyone pitches in and leads in their own way. Sometimes a sister helps in a way a parent can't. Sometimes kids help parents. (all true)
I guess they couldn't land on the God theory in a program produced for a mass audience and with big corporate sponsors. Look to reruns of 7th Heaven for that!
Blow Out the Candles: Naomi Watts
Naomi Watts
Born September 28, 1968
Naomi Watts’ filmography is one of great variety. Since she wowed critics and audiences alike in her role in David Lynch’s psychological thriller, Mulholland Drive, she has appeared in several films, all very different from each other.
Mulholland Drive launched Watts’ career, bringing her out from under the radar and into the consciousness of filmmakers and moviegoers. She’s a subtle actress, yet she possesses a powerful screen presence, holding her own next to heavyweight actors and consistently executing both quiet and bold performances in many genres of film.
No film showcases Watts’ range as an actress as in her breakthrough role in Mulholland Drive. In a way, Watts could identify with the character she plays in the film since one of the film’s various plot lines revolves around a young Hollywood starlet (played by Watts) trying to fulfill her dreams of movie stardom. Before landing the role, Watts was trying to do just that in her own life.
Mulholland Drive launched Watts’ career, bringing her out from under the radar and into the consciousness of filmmakers and moviegoers. She’s a subtle actress, yet she possesses a powerful screen presence, holding her own next to heavyweight actors and consistently executing both quiet and bold performances in many genres of film.
No film showcases Watts’ range as an actress as in her breakthrough role in Mulholland Drive. In a way, Watts could identify with the character she plays in the film since one of the film’s various plot lines revolves around a young Hollywood starlet (played by Watts) trying to fulfill her dreams of movie stardom. Before landing the role, Watts was trying to do just that in her own life.
Watts didn’t have it easy trying to forge a film career and an identity for herself in the movie industry. She was 31 when she got her first big break in Mulholland Drive, a relatively late start compared to her counterparts in the biz who had established themselves as film heavyweights in their twenties, long before Watts made an impression on David Lynch. But the struggle to make it is where the similarity between Watts and naïve, small-town girl, Betty Elms, whom she portrays in the film, ends.
Watts has managed to star in good movies while remaining out of the glaring spotlight and off the tabloid train. Even after two high-profile romances – a two-year long relationship with the late Heath Ledger and her current long-term union with actor, Liev Schreiber – Watts has avoided becoming the fodder for gossip, and doesn’t seem to set flashbulbs a-popping wherever she goes. She’s achieved critical acclaim as an actress and has brought a character focus to films that could simply have been special effects vehicles (The Ring and King Kong), and she’s made a mark on-screen without personal drama to raise her profile.
She followed her star-making turn in Mulholland Drive with an entirely different kind of film – a remake of the Japanese horror film The Ring. The film is a dark and suspenseful one about a video that brings certain death seven days after you watch it. Although the look of The Ring is good and certain scenes make your spine tingle, the storyline was, in my opinion, a bit absurd and the climax too drawn out. That said, Watts brings a degree of legitimacy to the movie as the female lead and saviour.
Watts played another splendid heroine in the blockbuster remake of King Kong. Although a tad long with some unnecessary scenes with monsters and such, the film is a slick, stylized and entertaining one. Watts delivers the film’s strongest performance by expressing a superb range of emotion in her interactions with Kong, instilling the outlandish premise with a sense of authenticity and believability.
The role that stands out most for me on Watts’ resume is her Academy Award nominated performance in 21 Grams. Watts’ performance as a recovering drug addict, whose stable, happy recovery is derailed by unimaginable tragedy and loss, is gripping and deeply moving. I remember how absorbed I became as I watched Watts’ character set off on a path of renewed substance abuse and revenge.
Watts may not be out there all the time like other actresses, gracing magazine covers every month or headlining entertainment shows, but her work earns her plenty of notice and recognition, and it’s nice to watch a performance by an actress without all of the other outside stuff getting in the way and colouring it.
What performances by Naomi Watts are your favourite? Let us know in the comments section.
Tuesday, September 27, 2011
When Never-Marrieds Date the Divorced
Now that I've managed to malign a population of our society... I may as well take a whack at yet another.
You know, I like to think that anyone could be a match... but the fact is I am looking for a Catholic man and I would prefer that he's not divorced. But at my age... at least half of the available men are going to be divorced. So... you know... we must date them.
It's pretty tricky trying to determine from an online profile if a guy is a good candidate to commit to meeting. Even tricker I think when they're divorced.
First of all, I don't even entertain dating anyone whose status is "separated". Ahem, I'm a little uncomfortable to point this out but... you are still married. There is no reason for me to get involved. Quite frankly... I think you ought to be at least two years out of the final divorce proceedings before you date. Seems to me there is a lot of healing to work through and there's no point dragging someone else into the messiness. But I think men in particular are not going to wait that long to get back on the scene. Women tend to know they need healing. Men, in general want to get on with it.
So actually, second is - be healed from your divorce before you date me.
Third.
I met a guy a couple weeks ago. We met for beverages of some sort and talked for quite a while. I felt that he told me too much about his divorce too soon.
I mentioned this to a friend who is in the same dating situation as I - and she said she's experienced the alternative... which was the guy hadn't said a word about his divorce until she asked him casually on the fourth date... and he looked shocked and dumbfounded! That's no good either. You shouldn't be surprised that it comes up.
In my case, I felt he told me too much about his kids and about their schedules. (not in a stalker-ish way) But you barely know me, and I'm here to get to know YOU. Naturally, your kids are part of your life... yes, tell me about them - but on the first date that should be limited to a synopsis of their ages, maybe genders, and one or two remarkable things about them (she's a ballerina, loves horses, he's a great soccer player). You don't have to tell me what you think about their soccer coaches this year, or how much time you spend shuttling them between activities. I don't need to know that. Yes, I may want to know eventually - but can I please get to you first?
See.. I don't have kids... so quite frankly I can't even relate to getting up early enough to get children to school before the first bell! By talking about your kids, you've pretty much put me at a loss for words. Am I supposed to talk about work now? My car? My parents? My condo?
Let's talk about what we love to do. Hiking, skiing, geo-tracking? Let's talk about what we'd like to do... you want to visit Italy again... Great, that's the first place on my bucket list! Let's talk about that!
Fourth.
I guess I do need to know why you got divorced... but please, not too much detail.
She cheated on you? She up and left? She never loved you? You never loved her? None of it reflects well on you.
Actually, I have a litmus test on this topic, especially if she cheated or initiated the divorce. I'll ask if it was a complete shock. Did he think everything in his marriage was just fine and had no idea that anything was wrong or that she was unhappy? RED FLAG!
My response to that is... "So where were you?" Was he checked out of the marriage? Was he content with his needs being met and so never noticed that she was bored, or unfulfilled, or overworked as a mom?
You'd be surprised how many guys say, "Yeah! Total shock!" That's when I prepare my exit.
I guess the next thing would be to ask what he's learned from his divorce... but that seems like more of a fourth date question... not the first.
See how this is so tricky?
Fifth.
If you're telling me that ALL your friends are getting divorced... that scares me.
Granted, you're going to want to support your friends through the same thing that you went through. But if you're only associating with other divorced guys... well... that tells me that you think it's okay. I'd rather hear that you're moved to help them reconcile. I want to know that divorce was so awful you wouldn't want to wish it on anyone else.
Maybe I'm too idealistic... but you know what they say, birds of a feather flock together. If I said all my friends were hoodlums, would you believe that I'm the Mother Theresa trying to straighten them all out - or would you think that maybe I'm a shady character too?
Weird correlation I suppose... but it's reasonable for me to think that if you're only socializing with people in the midst of divorce ... er... that's where you're comfort zone is.
I can see that it's probably different with kids... because you want them to know they're not the only kids in the world with divorced parents.
Sixth. The future.
This last divorced guy started ticking off qualities that he expected of his next wife. That's okay for the most part... not ticking them off, but having an idea. It just felt wrong when I could add up that he was looking for qualities the exact opposite of his ex-wife.... I mean OBVIOUS. And I've never met her! To me, that says he thinks it will all work out if he can identify the bugs in a particular model and build his own divorce proof robot.
Granted, I know what qualities I want to avoid in men ( most of which were gleaned from my relationship with Mr. Burns) but I see it more as being able to identify those qualities and avoid them and not be fooled again. Not sweeping generalizations... but more about identifying behavior.
Seventh. More about the future.
This one is pretty specific. This last guy mentioned (on the first date/meeting mind you!) that if he got married again it would be a casual affair. In the mountains or on the beach or something. I replied that I would want a Mass in a Church... the whole Sacrament. I've been waiting my whole life for this, it's going to be official! He whimpered a bit and said, "Oh, I can't do that. I'd have to get an annulment."
"Oh. " I said, "Well, you sort of need one of those to date me in the first place."
He looked at me a bit shocked... crossed with impressed.
See... I'm not playing around. I'm not going to get involved with someone who isn't going to be serious. In my book, an annulment says your marriage is over and you've done everything you can do to be healed. You really ought to be healed and ready if you're going to start dating.
What is dating if marriage is not the goal?
That's just setting people up for disappointment.
When I'm looking at profiles, I look for a few specific details, especially in the profiles of divorced guys... A) Divorced for at least two years B) if they have kids, they have at least 50/50 custody. A guy who lives more than an hour from children is a flag. I have no interest in a guy who has abandoned his children, even if it would be easier on me! C) That he might be open to having more children. Obviously, I may not be able to have kids of my own, but I'd like the guy to be open to it - we should be at a similar starting point and let God sort it out.
I know Divorced folks have their opinions on dating the Never-Married as well.... and it's true, we come from completely different worlds.
Often the divorced married right out college and have never been alone... and for the never-married... the exact opposite. Different worlds.
What's your experience?
You know, I like to think that anyone could be a match... but the fact is I am looking for a Catholic man and I would prefer that he's not divorced. But at my age... at least half of the available men are going to be divorced. So... you know... we must date them.
It's pretty tricky trying to determine from an online profile if a guy is a good candidate to commit to meeting. Even tricker I think when they're divorced.
First of all, I don't even entertain dating anyone whose status is "separated". Ahem, I'm a little uncomfortable to point this out but... you are still married. There is no reason for me to get involved. Quite frankly... I think you ought to be at least two years out of the final divorce proceedings before you date. Seems to me there is a lot of healing to work through and there's no point dragging someone else into the messiness. But I think men in particular are not going to wait that long to get back on the scene. Women tend to know they need healing. Men, in general want to get on with it.
So actually, second is - be healed from your divorce before you date me.
Third.
I met a guy a couple weeks ago. We met for beverages of some sort and talked for quite a while. I felt that he told me too much about his divorce too soon.
I mentioned this to a friend who is in the same dating situation as I - and she said she's experienced the alternative... which was the guy hadn't said a word about his divorce until she asked him casually on the fourth date... and he looked shocked and dumbfounded! That's no good either. You shouldn't be surprised that it comes up.
In my case, I felt he told me too much about his kids and about their schedules. (not in a stalker-ish way) But you barely know me, and I'm here to get to know YOU. Naturally, your kids are part of your life... yes, tell me about them - but on the first date that should be limited to a synopsis of their ages, maybe genders, and one or two remarkable things about them (she's a ballerina, loves horses, he's a great soccer player). You don't have to tell me what you think about their soccer coaches this year, or how much time you spend shuttling them between activities. I don't need to know that. Yes, I may want to know eventually - but can I please get to you first?
See.. I don't have kids... so quite frankly I can't even relate to getting up early enough to get children to school before the first bell! By talking about your kids, you've pretty much put me at a loss for words. Am I supposed to talk about work now? My car? My parents? My condo?
Let's talk about what we love to do. Hiking, skiing, geo-tracking? Let's talk about what we'd like to do... you want to visit Italy again... Great, that's the first place on my bucket list! Let's talk about that!
Fourth.
I guess I do need to know why you got divorced... but please, not too much detail.
She cheated on you? She up and left? She never loved you? You never loved her? None of it reflects well on you.
Actually, I have a litmus test on this topic, especially if she cheated or initiated the divorce. I'll ask if it was a complete shock. Did he think everything in his marriage was just fine and had no idea that anything was wrong or that she was unhappy? RED FLAG!
My response to that is... "So where were you?" Was he checked out of the marriage? Was he content with his needs being met and so never noticed that she was bored, or unfulfilled, or overworked as a mom?
You'd be surprised how many guys say, "Yeah! Total shock!" That's when I prepare my exit.
I guess the next thing would be to ask what he's learned from his divorce... but that seems like more of a fourth date question... not the first.
See how this is so tricky?
Fifth.
If you're telling me that ALL your friends are getting divorced... that scares me.
Granted, you're going to want to support your friends through the same thing that you went through. But if you're only associating with other divorced guys... well... that tells me that you think it's okay. I'd rather hear that you're moved to help them reconcile. I want to know that divorce was so awful you wouldn't want to wish it on anyone else.
Maybe I'm too idealistic... but you know what they say, birds of a feather flock together. If I said all my friends were hoodlums, would you believe that I'm the Mother Theresa trying to straighten them all out - or would you think that maybe I'm a shady character too?
Weird correlation I suppose... but it's reasonable for me to think that if you're only socializing with people in the midst of divorce ... er... that's where you're comfort zone is.
I can see that it's probably different with kids... because you want them to know they're not the only kids in the world with divorced parents.
Sixth. The future.
This last divorced guy started ticking off qualities that he expected of his next wife. That's okay for the most part... not ticking them off, but having an idea. It just felt wrong when I could add up that he was looking for qualities the exact opposite of his ex-wife.... I mean OBVIOUS. And I've never met her! To me, that says he thinks it will all work out if he can identify the bugs in a particular model and build his own divorce proof robot.
Granted, I know what qualities I want to avoid in men ( most of which were gleaned from my relationship with Mr. Burns) but I see it more as being able to identify those qualities and avoid them and not be fooled again. Not sweeping generalizations... but more about identifying behavior.
Seventh. More about the future.
This one is pretty specific. This last guy mentioned (on the first date/meeting mind you!) that if he got married again it would be a casual affair. In the mountains or on the beach or something. I replied that I would want a Mass in a Church... the whole Sacrament. I've been waiting my whole life for this, it's going to be official! He whimpered a bit and said, "Oh, I can't do that. I'd have to get an annulment."
"Oh. " I said, "Well, you sort of need one of those to date me in the first place."
He looked at me a bit shocked... crossed with impressed.
See... I'm not playing around. I'm not going to get involved with someone who isn't going to be serious. In my book, an annulment says your marriage is over and you've done everything you can do to be healed. You really ought to be healed and ready if you're going to start dating.
What is dating if marriage is not the goal?
That's just setting people up for disappointment.
When I'm looking at profiles, I look for a few specific details, especially in the profiles of divorced guys... A) Divorced for at least two years B) if they have kids, they have at least 50/50 custody. A guy who lives more than an hour from children is a flag. I have no interest in a guy who has abandoned his children, even if it would be easier on me! C) That he might be open to having more children. Obviously, I may not be able to have kids of my own, but I'd like the guy to be open to it - we should be at a similar starting point and let God sort it out.
I know Divorced folks have their opinions on dating the Never-Married as well.... and it's true, we come from completely different worlds.
Often the divorced married right out college and have never been alone... and for the never-married... the exact opposite. Different worlds.
What's your experience?
8 ½ in Eight Words
I was originally planning to write about my experiences watching Federico Fellini’s cinematic masterpiece 8 ½ in a regular review. The more I thought about it, I realized that writing about eight specific points that stood out would be more fitting as this film has been analyzed to death. Then my lovely wife suggested that I sum up the film in eight simple words. I told her that it was impossible to sum up a film like in only eight words, but the look on her face clearly implied that the challenge had been laid down. So below is my feeble attempt to sum up my thoughts on 8 ½ in just eight words:
Visually striking dreamlike exploration of memory and film
8 ½ is part of our "The Must See List" series.
Monday, September 26, 2011
NEW Facebook Video Calling Feature Joined With Skype - Tech Vlog 13
NEW Facebook Video Calling Feature Joined With Skype - Tech Vlog 13
Get It Here: www.Facebook.com Today Facebook announced and released their new Video Calling feature project joined with Skype. By simply ...Small Bites: Hanna, The Lincoln Lawyer, and Stake Land
Hanna
Unique take on the coming of age tale. Not quite the action film I was expecting, but I enjoyed it for the most part. The action sequences work well and the set design in the last act is fantastic. There is something a little off about the pacing that irked me. However, I doubt it will be noticeable upon repeat viewings. For her part, Saoirse Ronan does a nice job blending both Hanna’s naivety and her killer instinct. Cate Blanchett is the weak link in the film. She just never reaches the level of her counterparts. Tom Hollander routinely steals Blanchett thunder with his chilling performance as the sadistic Issac.
The Lincoln Lawyer
Just as I was starting to lose faith in Matthew McConaughey’s career choices, he turns it around and reminds me that there may be some magic left. McCounaughey brings his trademark charm to the role of shady lawyer Micky Haller. The film is very reminiscent of Primal Fear though Ryan Phillippe is not as memorable as Edward Norton was in that film. The one major issue I had with the film is that it has multiple endings. The conversation with the mother and the scenes outside Maggie’s (Marisa Tomei) house are completely unnecessary. Last act aside, The Lincoln Lawyer ended up being better than I expected. I would have no problem seeing Mickey Haller in another film.
Stake Land
Although I like to think of this film as its own entity, if pressed I would say it has a Zombieland meets 28 Days Later vibe. The major difference being that this film takes a far more realistic approach to the post-apocalyptic genre. Similar to the zombies in 28 Days, the vampires are the least of mankind’s worries. The real terror in the film comes from the religious zealots whose skewed view causes more damage than anything the vampires can dish out. Director Jim Mickle’s script really shapes the film into a character study about mankind rather than a straight vampire flick. Beside the solid story, it was nice to see both Kelly McGillis and Sean Nelson back on the big screen in prominent roles.
In This Guide Learners Should be able to Learn about:
1. Introduction to the Ubuntu Desktop Guide
2. Conventions
3. Contributing and Feedback
1. Getting Started
1. About Ubuntu
2. Getting Ubuntu
3. Linux Basics
2. Adding, Removing and Updating Applications
1. Introduction
2. Add/Remove Applications
3. Synaptic Package Managers
4. Command Line Package Management
5. Installing a
In This Guide Learners Should be able to Learn about:
1. Introduction to the Ubuntu Desktop Guide
2. Conventions
3. Contributing and Feedback
1. Getting Started
1. About Ubuntu
2. Getting Ubuntu
3. Linux Basics
2. Adding, Removing and Updating Applications
1. Introduction
2. Add/Remove Applications
3. Synaptic Package Managers
4. Command Line Package Management
5. Installing a
Sunday, September 25, 2011
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